Wednesday, December 14, 2011

One of our dearest friends from Louisiana, Tim White passed away this weekend and we are heading to his funeral.  I can't believe that I've just typed those words.

I took this photo in mid August, the morning after their 50th wedding anniversary party.
Does this look like a man who has a hidden liver cancer that will claim his life within just a few weeks of being discovered?

I'm in denial and I know that I'll be snatched into reality when we get to Louisiana.  If it's unreal to me, I can't imagine being in Ada's shoes right now.  

I can't find the words to write a long tribute because nothing seems sufficient.    

Yesterday, I thought about pre-writing a few posts that I could publish from the road this week.  I wasn't going to mention Tim's death or his funeral until after it was all over and a little less raw.  I was just going to do a few catch up posts about the house, the horses, or the myriad of Christmas events that we've been attending lately.

But I can't do it.

There are bloggers who write bits of generic prose every single day and adhere to the mantra of "Stay Away from Personal Subjects."   If their blogs were books, they'd be "coffee table" books.  Gorgeous to look at, but they purposely don't tell a story.  

I'm not an advice giver, a photography site, or a money driven blogger.  In my own haphazard and scattered way, I'm just trying to remember what's been happening in my life.  

Sometime I wish that I was a generic blogger because I'd rather pretend that this hadn't happened.  


  1. I love it that you can write what is in your heart. It's never easy to lose a dear friend and I commend you for writing about his death. My prayers are with you as you travel and for his precious family. Blessings and hugs.

  2. I am so sorry for your loss... my heart goes out to Ada, too..

  3. I can imagine how hearts are breaking in your world right now. Have a safe journey to Louisiana... I wish for you that it were for happier reasons. {{{HUGS}}}

  4. My condolences; unfortunately, I know something of how she feels and am so happy for her they had 50 years; what a blessing and gift!
    Those blogs that are generic coffee table versions? I'd rather read mysteries or spy novels for entertainment.

  5. Oh my, Grace. I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your wonderful friend....
    J and I lost a precious friend this spring who went in for knee replacement and had an aneurysm during the procedure. He was 41. We are still in shock. He owned a shop in town and there are still times when I am driving by I think, "I will stop by to say hi to Mike...."

    You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Have safe travels.
    xo, misha

  6. i am very sorry. i am so glad you are making the trip to be with your sweet friend when she needs you most. be safe in your travels. i know your heart is heavy and your mind is in shock.

  7. So sorry for the loss of your friend. I will keep you and his family in my thoughts.

  8. Grace, our condolences on the loss of your dear friend, Tim. Being able to share what is in your heart is what sometimes makes such a heavy burden easier to bear, but it still doesn't erase the sadness you are all feeling in your hearts. We pray you will be safe in your travels.

  9. My condolensces on your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, your readers. Safe travels.

  10. God bless you and his family, and see you safe home.

  11. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. When I decided to take up photography as a way of passing all the free time suddenly thrust upon me by my accident I did a web search looking for information of where to begin. That led to Windows Live Spaces where I found a great community of people willing to take me under their wings or just offer up their friendship and that got me started with blogging. A fine lady from Australia tells me the friends are the family God lets you choose and I was lucky enough to choose some wonderful ones. We've shared joy, heartache and just everyday life for 3 years now and I didn't know any other way to do it. Even if I did I don't know that I would.


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